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As the American writer Richard Bach said, “A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are.”

Deep in our subconscious is the need to find the one person who can truly open our locks. The one who makes us tingle and feel alive, the one who understands the deepest parts of ourselves, the one to share the journey of life with.  The one who can give us love and make us learn to love in return.  A soul mate comes in many forms, can come into our lives for one day or stay for twenty years or more. They come to awaken and bring keys to help us understand the multifaceted nature of love.

Soul mates exchange the information of love through touch, words, experiences and sometimes tragedies. It is through this exchange that one master’s love.  And the mastery of love brings true love.  True love is what many refer to  as unconditional love.  A state that is free from negativity, drama, judgement or lack.  True love is supportive, nurturing, liberating, emotionally intelligent, kind, generous, evolving and magical.

Mastering love is the main purpose of human life.

We are here to gain the wisdom of love, learn the power of love, feel affection, get swept away by romance, be ignited by passion, develop friendships that are truthful and loyal, learn compassion and understanding and become selfless.  All these qualities get taught to us by our soul mates.  And so soul mates come in different forms from lovers, to partners, family members, friends, a brief meeting with a stranger and pets.

And this is why there are many types of soul mate relationships in order to learn love. Some last for a certain period of time to close a karmic chapter,  and other relationships are meant to have children with their partner but not necessarily remain with them.  There are also those relationships which are plain confusing because a melting pot of emotions develop.  These types of relationships usually teach us to love ourselves first before another.

Often soul mates appear in disguise.  You might not be physically attracted to them when first meeting, but there is a mysterious force that tells you to ‘go and explore’ or ‘this could be the one.’  Either way it is important to identify the type of relationship the connection offers as this will help you to master love easily and effortlessly.

Karmic Soul Mates

These people come together specifically for the purpose of teaching or working out an issue. They have unfinished business or a shared trauma or need. They are sometimes difficult or challenging but don’t have to be.  When a relationship is difficult it is because we are refusing to acknowledge something in ourselves, we have healing to do. When we can accept the wisdom we can move the relationship into a better place. Karmic relationships have to work through the issues otherwise you will keep attracting the same relationships over and over again.

Ego Mates

These are concerned with whether the other person makes them “look” good. Do they do the right things, behave the right ways, go the right places, hang out with the right people, wear the right clothes, live in the right houses, earn enough money, have the right career. They are conditional, fragile and superficial relationships, where material status is the drive not love.  Most ego relationships are transitory, coming and going as they make each other feel better about themselves – or don’t. Ego mates look outside the relationship for fulfillment not with in, as a result these relationships are prone to cheating.

Companion Mates

These are souls who have agreed to enjoy a warm and loving long term relationship. They share lives for specific reason such raising children or expanding their understanding of genuine love. They can last a lifetime and are characterized by respect, affection, intimacy, commitment, safety and loyalty. They don’t ignore the up’s and down’s of life they have agreed to navigate them together. Their love grows deeper and blossoms over time.  Unlike the Karmic and Ego mates who are threatened by the highs and lows of passion. It is still possible for a companion mates to grow apart as each follows his/her individual path.

Twin Flames

Also know as your soul twin.  When you meet you will feel a profound sense of coming home, and share complementary, compatible life goals. There lives are in sync with each other on a spiritual, mental, emotional and physical level. These relationships are called to do direct spiritual or humanitarian work, they have many divine timings or destined moments together.

We must treasure all the soul mate experiences we have. Whether they are good relationships or bad, they each occur to help benefit our soul so that we can learn to master love and loving the self.  This process ensures that we also become best friends with our own soul.


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Written by Vanya Silverten

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